I get asked a lot why Milo is obsessed with Television. He tends to watch the same shows, and if he's on my phone, he'll rewind certain segments and listen to them over and over. Ask anyone who has been on a road trip with Milo and they will verify this.
Every person with Autism is different but something that a lot of the people on the spectrum crave is order and repetition. Milo hates chaos. People? Chaotic. Unpredictable. You never know what you're going to get when a child runs up to you. Cinderella, on the other hand, is very predictable...because we've all seen it about a million times and it's never changed on us.
Milo doesn't really speak independently right now, but when he's watching a show he loves, his language explodes. It's repetitive, but it's there. Just the other day I heard him say "What have we here Banzai? mmmmmm I don't know Shenzi" from the Lion King. I can hold a ball up to his face, ask him what it is and I get nothing, but turn on a disney movie and I get "Oh I just can't wait to be king!"
My favorite is bedtime. We've started dedicating 15-30 minutes to singing because of how well Milo does with Music. I can now ask him what song he'd like to sing and he'll tell me! "Twinkle twinkle" "Ten in the bed" "ABC" "Head Shoulders knees and toes" "BINGO". Sometimes he'll sing along, sometimes I'll pause at the end of a sentence and Milo will sing the last word. Last night we were tucking Milo in bed and he sang the entire alphabet and even sang "Now I know my ABC's, next time won't you sing with me".
I haven't yet had a conversation with my son, but through music we're able to connect with him. He's our conductor. He'll touch our lips when he wants us to start and he waves his arms around to the beat of the music. He looks into our eyes and you can tell when he's enjoying it because he'll get this coy half smile on his lips.
I can't wait to see where he goes with his life. Brett and I are desperately trying to find something that will be his thing for life. a year ago I bought him paint brushes to see if he would take to painting, before that we bought a keyboard to see if he's love playing the piano. Just the other day Brett ordered a snare drum because Milo is obsessed with beats. I've always wanted to be a drummer, so this one I'm trying not to hold too tightly too, but it would be AWESOME if he took to it.
For now it's singing ABC's, and jumping off the couch to the beat of "itsy bitsy spider". This kid is pretty cool.
side note: You know who else loves order and repetition? ME! Please let the summer end so I can have some semblance of order in my house.